When sex has become addictive, it is used compulsively to numb-out, get a high or both.
An indicator that sexual addiction could be present is if someone expresses concerns about the sexual behaviour of a spouse or partner that is not a part of their relationship (like viewing pornography or visiting a strip club).
Another sign is if sexual behaviours are kept hidden from a spouse or others. Additional questions to ask to help identify if sexual behaviours are part of a sexual addiction are:
- Have you lost control over your sexual behaviours?
- Have you crossed lines you didn’t think you would cross?
- Have you set limits on your sexual behaviour that you have failed to meet?
- Have you experienced negative consequences such as the loss of a relationship?
- Are you being less productive professionally; at work?
- Are you spending less time with family or friends because of your sexual behaviour?
- Would you experience negative consequences if others found out about your sexual behaviours?
- Have you tried to stop any sexual behaviour but eventually returned to them?
- Are you finances out of control?
If a positive response is given to any of these questions, it is a good indication that the person has become sexually addicted.
Further assessment by a professional specialising in sex addiction treatment is recommended.