I’m a woman in her 70′s. After nearly 20 years alone I have met a wonderful man of similar age and we would both like a long-term relationship. After some time we spent a night together. It was lovely, but not earth-shattering – I have long had a problem reaching orgasm. While everything progresses very nicely, I just can’t seem to tip “over the edge” and after a while everything just fades away.
Good sex is something one has to learn. It takes a considerable amount of time and practice to learn how one’s own body works, and then one has to apply that learning to a partner. The latter involves patience, clear communication, and specific guidance. On top of that, every partner is different, and that means learning how his or her body works too. Frankly, for any first time, a “lovely experience” is a very positive start. Instead of having high expectations for such early days, try to relax, and focus simply on the giving and getting of pleasure. If we make orgasm the goal, it becomes harder to achieve, so don’t put pressure on yourself, and don’t allow him to pressure you either. Be brave enough to help him understand exactly how you like to be touched, and get used to making it last. Many people in their 70′s are blessed to have the time to truly relish their sex lives.
~ Pamela Stephenson Connolly